The other day, my five year old came home from preschool. As we talked about his day, he described three of his fellow classmates as "the mean girls".
"What?!", I asked him in surprise. Did I hear that right? Did he just call three girls, ages 4 and 5, the "mean girls"?
"What do they do? And why do you call them that?"
Turns out, they are sort of a clique. They like to stick together and not really play with anyone else.
Mind, you, this is the second clique I've heard of in his class of 20. The other is a small group of boys.
Cliques. Mean girls. Boys who stick together like glue.
In preschool. A great preschool with caring teachers who are actively trying to do something to stop what they see happening before their eyes.
And then today, I read the story of Phoebe Prince, a pretty 15 year old girl whose family moved from Ireland to South Hadley. Many of you have heard the story by now, and may have read the truly disturbing story in The Boston Globe of the bullying she suffered while here.
Earlier this month, Phoebe Prince came home and hung herself. Her 12 year old sister found her.
Her bullies had the nerve, the motherfucking nerve, to go on Facebook and mock her death.
I am so pissed about this story, I can barely see straight. If there is any justice in this world, those girls will be expelled and get themselves a shiny new criminal record, although I don't know enough about bullying to know if they can be charged with a crime.
I want the other kids in the town to start talking, telling officials who these girls are. I want them to tell the parents what monsters they have raised. Show the parents those Facebook comments so they can see what their darlings have been saying about another child.
But, would it matter to those parents or would they make excuses for their girls? Do mean girls and boys grow up and have kids who carry on the cycle?
How are these kids able to use social media in such a publicly malicious way without consequences? Why aren't more parents monitoring their kids' online activity?
But, is there really any hope for these kids if exclusive cliques are being formed among kids who are barely out of diapers? I wish I had an answer.